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The Polyamory Bechdel Test
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I’m wondering— what would be on this short but concise list?

For those not in the know, the Bechdel Test is a short questionnaire that analyzes media (usually tv and movies) for the MINIMAL guidelines to be considered feminist— a very low bar. However, it also showcases how a lot of media does not pass these minimums.

The Bechdel Test list is:

  1. That at least two women are featured, and
  2. that these women talk to each other, and
  3. that they discuss something other than a man

It’s that last point where most media fail, often devolving into catty melodrama that many feminists roll their eyes at.

If there was a polyamory-in-media test, what would it be on that list?

My WIP list is:

  1. There are at least three people featured and know of each other's existence, and
  2. there are romantic and/or sexual connections between at least two people, and
  3. no one is cheating; there is consent between all parties [EDIT: changed this because it's vague and I think it's too high of a bar and not emulating the Bechdel test] they have at least one conversation about consent and boundaries

Similarly to the Bechdel test, I think it’s that last part that a lot of today’s media gets wrong about polyamory and would fail.

In closing:

  • Let me know your thoughts, if you’d modify the list, or if I’m missing one of the ENM group outliers
  • I'm looking for polyamory MINIMUMs, not polyamory ideals. Reminder, this is for works of fiction: movies, television, and books.

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