Jam is my new friend from work. We like each other and we went on a couple friendly dates, we have a lot in common and a lot to talk about. We really found ourselves since not long ago.

I don't plan to have a love relationship with her. She is most probably NOT poly, and even if she was, I don't think I want this kind of relationship with her. Just good friends getting closer.

She can keep a secret, but because she's my colleague and it's not been long, I didn't tell her I'm poly yet. Very few of my colleagues know this ; I'm keeping my head low. You know what it's like... We talked about our past love life but I answered questions with minimal information. No lies, just "it's a long story..." and other truths that give no clue about the poly stuff. I feel bad because she really opened up about her past and her vulnerabilities. So do I, but still I kept the poly part quiet thanks to my sneakypolyjutsu skill.

Anyway, we're getting closer so I really have to tell her soon. I can't hold conversations indefinitely without talking about what is basically half of what I experience nowadays in my life. Damn, she met friends of mine. Also, I don't want to let her expect something more from me. Good thing is she seems commited to wait a while before finding love again, so I guess she's not planning on asking me out too soon, if she plans so.

My concern is I don't want to mess things up, weird things up. I don't want to scare her and look like I hid a big nasty secret like I am in fact a sex crazed ape that plan to prey on her and take her into a poly cult to use her and spit her out (ya know how people react sometimes when you tell them you're poly...)

Do I just tell her "I'm poly"? Do I let this friendship fade back to the "good colleagues" zone? Did you experience a similar situation? How did it end up?