My partner (m23) and I (m23) have been together for over 2 years now. Our relationship has practically existed as monogamous until this point. We’ve been through a lot together. I am deeply deeply in love with him and can’t imagine how I’d be if I wasn’t to have him in my life. He is my light and my rock.

We’ve been discussing opening up the relationship to polyamory for quite a while now. The last time we discussed it all, I had expressed that I am excited about it and open to it, but that I needed more time to make sure that I am ready and comfortable to open myself to something which feels vulnerable to me and potentially upsetting at times. (We both have trauma which hasn’t necessarily been dealt with.) He assured me that we would do this slowly and only when we both felt ready and comfortable. Now in recent discussions it’s feeling a bit more pressured.

It seems like he can’t wait much longer. But I just don’t feel fully ready. I’m quite scared about the idea of doing it all right now. He’s been giving me the impress lately that either we open up now or we break up. I don’t know what to do…. I really really don’t want to lose him, but I’m also scared about going into this before I feel ready. I’d love some advice on this 💕