I’ve been ENM solo for 3 years now and after so many failed dating experiences due to meeting emotionally unavailable women, women that only want casual sex or a unicorn for their main relationship, or “need to fix some issues in their life and take a step back” etc.. its become impossible to finding a woman that wants intimacy and a long term relationship in this community. I’m also black, heterosexual and 32 years old, not sure how much that shortens my dating pool further. Also with dating apps I barely get any matches and if I do, the women never respond even if I ask them something about something on their profile as an opener…

So I just want to know if other men are also having a hard time finding meaningful long term, intimate relationships with women in this community??