Why do so many people stay with or get back together with terrible partners? I really didn’t expect it in the poly community but I see it over and over again. People staying with partners that mistreat them or have deplorable world views and seem to never date other people in the poly community.

It’s like they are practicing self imposed closed polyamory. Maybe they have more than one partner or their partner does, but they aren’t open to new connections. I would expect this to be the case for people who are poly saturated, but I am seeing it from a majority of people in the community.

I once had a job where there were two supervisors and one was hated so much the someone bought three gift cards at Christmas; $100 each for our secretary and supervisor, but put 50¢ on the thírd gift card for that asshole. But when the generally like supervisor left most people’s mentality was that they’d prefer to work for the asshole they knew over an unknown person because they knew what to expect.

Is it just that I’m an optimist surrounded by people who are inherently pessimistic?