Ok so a friend of mine is poly and her boyfriend told her he's only poly because she's "not enough". I don't even know what that means. She doesn't know what that means but it's still breaking her heart. It's a massive trigger but I don't know if that's what was meant when he said it.

Reddit is great for breakup town and trust me I'm there with you. I just don't know what to tell her that's comforting or empowering.

Literally this just went down.

Facts: they've been together 5 years on a trajectory for marriage but that talk got derailed with poly. They've been poly I think 2 years? That's when I met her. There's childhood trauma issues I've heard about for both of them. They need counseling but don't go. I've recommended mine several times. Otherwise they seem like a good couple. We've double dated with no awkwardness or issues.

Edit to update: I've been reading comments and appreciate the resources as well as support to make sure I'm not caught in the emotional undertow. Thank you! As per usual, it's more complicated and convoluted than as first presented but because it's not my circus, we'll leave it at that. It's just that, yeah, break up town looks like a great place for them to be.