Poly for ~3 years and currently have two partners- one lives a few hours from me but plans to move here in about a year or so, who I've talked to about really building a life with. My other partner lives locally but due to conflicting work schedules, we don't get to see each other all that often.

I want a partner i can see on a reliable/consistent basis but have mixed feelings about finding someone to meet my needs. I am intentionally finding ways to spend meaningful time alone which brings fulfillment in other ways, and I am also aware that my needs for connection and physical intimacy are not currently being met by my partners, for no one's fault. It's just life/availability/all the things.

How do you navigate the lonely feels without projecting your feelings onto a potential new partner?