I recently ended a relationship which was severely damaging my mental health. I am stll recovering from it and using this time to reevaluate what the hell happened.

I am new to poly and it took me a long time for me to understand that my former partner was not a good hinge. I was accepting things that I shouldn’t from him, like lack of proper communication and transparency with partners, hot/cold behaviors, among other things that I prefer not to mention. Honestly, I thought I was being crazy and overly sensitive most of the times. I just realized that those problems were real after posting on this sub a few times (another account) and talking to some amazing and more experienced poly folks by DMs. I deeply care about him so I am not sure if I would be able to understand the depth of our problems without this sub.

I just want to share love and express my gratitude with you all. Each time I posted I felt so seen and validated. I didn’t give up on poly but I now understand more about my worth and that I have to trust my instincts a little more often. Thank you 💜