I am new to the poly life and my partner has researched it for years now. He would be consider my anchor partner, it’s a long story.

I digress. We were planning just for a swinger life but in a kind of organic way, him and his best friend have decided to take their relationship further. This weekend him and her are going away together. I really have been happy for him, but as the time gets closer and I know it’s different this time (with the change in their relationship) I’m starting to get nervous. Please note- I’m ok with switching to a poly life, even a swinger/ poly life.

I’ve always been a very jealous person, but have done so much work to get to this point. How do you deal with the potential of jealousy? I’m scared I will loose my mind. I have our kids to keep me busy, but I’m just worried about what my reaction will be in the moment. I don’t want to revert back to the person I was.

Note- I have a therapy session scheduled for tomorrow! She’s a poly/ swinger ally!! 😁

If you need more information, ask away!!! ❤️

ETA- A little relationship back story… We have been together in some capacity for 13 years, 11 of which we were married, yes we are now divorced (I said it was a long story lol). We have 3 kiddos together. We don’t live together and haven’t for 1.5 years.