Hey folks,

I’m curious about something. My primary partner (M) is always on the apps chasing new people for casual sex. I understand that for men things are harder and more effort is necessary. But I wonder if being on the apps on a daily basis indicates a deeper issue.

He has two other partners now (one fwb and a boyfriend). Part of me thinks that this constant chasing is a sign we are failing as a couple. He says he is just having fun and exploring himself but why he is never satisfied then?

Any input is appreciated!

Edit: Answering questions here. I love him deeply and I am not judging him. I see him struggling a lot with anxiety because of dating. That’s why I feel so nervous about this situation. He is not good in noticing his own feelings (this is an ongoing issue for us for years) so it’s hard for me to know if he is actually trying to explore or if there is something else going on. Sometimes he spends long hours on the apps which is also a little lonely (and at least two hours every night). His partners are very caring and their relationships are very stable. I don’t know if they feel the same way about it.

Edit 2: More answers. Our needs were never completely met by each other (or at least most of them) so this is something we are actively working on. He also said that he feels how addictive those apps are. It affects his sleeping and exercising habits often.