I feel like giving up on polyamory. I go to local events, and the people there are genuinely lovely and make me feel understood. But they all seem to be men or a fair bit older than I am (29M). This is fine for finding community, but frustrating for me when it comes to actually practicing polyamory. I have tried every single dating app you can think of besides Grindr (as I’m unfortunately straight). They are useless and dehumanising.

Don’t really know what to do. I could try for monogamy again, but polyamory feels so natural. But it’s hard to know if it is, since I’ve not been in a polycule or been in a relationship with anyone poly before anyway. That said, I already have an awful time dating before I even looked at polyamory. Only been in the one relationship, been on a few ″failed″ dates - failed as in, they go nowhere RE romance and sex but I do end up with good platonic friends. Maybe it’s just me as a person.

Idk what to say. I’m just venting. Being single and poly can feel so isolating and empty. I feel exhausted. But being single and mono also felt isolating and empty. Maybe I just feel isolated and empty. Therapy certainly helps and I’ve been through it a lot, have loads of coping mechanisms and tools and support network things, but at some point it all starts to fade away.

It isn’t all bad - I do have hobbies and have achieved a lot with my life. I have close friends who care about me. But this side of me is completely neglected, lost and confused. I don’t know what more I can do.

Sympathy or advice or support is welcomed.