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I say "non-monogamy" quite often to encompass more than polyamory but I don't usually add "ethical" in front of it because in my opinion, if it's not ethical than it's cheating rather than non-monogamy. Just like I don't say non-deadly swimming. Deadly swimming would be drowning.
But maybe there is a trick I am missing? What do you think? Is the "ethical" required before "non-monogamy" or is it just repetitive? Does "non-monogamy" truly cover cheating as well? Curious to know your thoughts!
honestly i think its goofy to say "ethical nonmonogamy." like, i dont tell people im into "ethical camping"just to distinguish myself from jerks that litter. it feels self righteous to bring up. i wouldnt say im ethically queer to distinguish myself from gay people i dont like. idk it seems like emphasizing the ethical part is conceding that nonmonogamy is by default unethical
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i think an easier thing to point is forms of consensual nonmonogamy that some people dont find ethical. unicorn hunting. very strict hierarchy. idk nazis dont think its ethical if its gay.
also, consent is weird when it comes to nonmonogamy. we normally dont consent or not to things that happen to other people that we dont witness. like, we can say promises were broken or lies were said but saying consent was broken feels like other people have to consent to what i do with another adult in a private space.