Im (39m) married to my wife (39f), who has a gf (36f). And right from the start, i'll mention that theres no issue between the 3 of us, everything is going well, we get along great, no trouble there.

And things between me and my wife has been going well as well, way better than with her previous relationship.

What bothers me is that she seems to forget about things I ask to "tweak" things between us in order to be "Wow that is amazing, I would live everyday like this!".

The most common one is when it comes to Quality Time. My wife lives a very busy live (work, gf, our kids, friends, etc), so I told her numerous time "Let me know when we can go on a date, and i'll plan it on my end". It works well for the first week, then afterwards, something comes up, and we dont have time for it, so im like "ok it happens, there's always next week", then next week come, nothing, and then by the next week, im kinda getting in a pissy mood, so I just let her known that we havent had quality time in a while and her response is usually "Well you didnt told me when you wanted to go on a date".

And its pretty much like that for everything. So after a while we just become parents where our "Quality Time" is stuff we have to do (grocery shopping, dropping one of her kid to her dad for the weekend,etc).

Like I said overall things are great, its just a few things here and there, that I told her about, but for some reason, she forgot after a few weeks.

I was just wondering if there was something else I should try instead of constantly repeating it every few weeks.

TLTR: Do you feel like you need to tell your partner every few weeks about wants/needs, or else they'll just forget?