I was struggling to get in with my meta from day one. I feel like he’s hard to make conversation with but the polycule I’m in is very close and sociable so I was making an effort, and getting one word answers and disinterest back.

Then an incident happened a couple months ago where he rudely interrupted me when I was scening with our shared partner. It was my first doing public play and I felt very vulnerable and disrespected. This is also the same night that he revealed his superiority complex of ‘all the people who are the same age as me are dumb and immature’ and was talking shit about his other metas to others in the polycule (🚩). We’re also the same age btw and I was present for that discussion.

From talking to the shared partner that night I’d discovered that the meta didn’t really like me and thinks that I’m immature, but values the relationship between my partner and I and is willing to socially share space with me, without the two of us being friends.

Today was the first time hanging out with him again in a group since what had happened. I went in with a positive mindset hoping that we could be amicable but he was disrespectful to me all day and I feel pretty put out tbh. Either acting as tho I wasn’t there at all or only speaking to me when he had something judgemental to say.

The polycule do a lot of activities and social days together and I don’t want to have to give up on those bc of the uncomfortable environment created by my meta. I also no longer feel comfortable showing affection for my partner in front of the meta and I’m worried that it’s going to affect our relationship.

I just don’t know how to move forward from this