Polyamory can be a great tool for rethinking everything and reinventing relationships, but it takes actual change in the way we think, define, see and do things. Merely adopting the relationship structure doesn't change things much. Sometimes it's even worse.

We have such a great opportunity to change one core aspect of our society, yet we always notice the same old endless stream of problems here.

Earlier this day I saw a post where someone innocently described a story of them basically being raped and abused and their conclusion was "Hmmm looks like I may be more poly than I thought, what you think?"

How did we get there? There's a big fucking missing piece of the puzzle for newbies getting into polyamory. I blame mainstream representation of polyamory : capitalism cashing on the craze, merely giving people what they fantasize about, instagram crooks, cults, opportunists... With the blessing of our so called "apolitical" silence sometimes.

This only makes polyamory a new ground and a new degree of liberty for abuse. Can't blame monogs saying poly relationship will cause harm and fall apart after that.

That's why I say, will always say and highlight, that polyamory must be political, anchored in feminism, and a total rethinking of human relationships aimed at making people armed against all forms of abusive domination, being more autonomous, and helping them build cooperative behaviors.

Please feel free to correct me on the terms I use because this isn't my main language, and feel free to correct me if I'm talking out of my butt.