Hope everyone had a fun weekend. A little back story. My meta (partners husband) has made a habit of picking fights or expressing anger to my partner during our time together. She has recognized that. Has made comments to him to save things like that for their time. She’s expressed this to him a few times- and as far as I know it was respected or I have had no reason to feel otherwise.

Well, last night there was a really strange situation. I probably over reacted a little. Into the meat of it.

Last night my partner and I along with some of my friends and her friends had all gone out. A few hours later we make it a new bar and as I coming out of the bathroom I see her husband standing there talking to her. I give it a minute and he walks out. A few minutes later I walked outside and happen to notice him in the bar next door. She had stated he was there to meet some other girl. But I felt like it was yet again messing with our time. Seeing him next door made me feel like he lingering so we all went to another place.

I was still feeling off after a few hours and got to the point where it was really bothering me. I had asked her to leave so we can head home. She had agreed. When we got out we grabbed food at which point we started to argue. She had told me I was yelling at- in the moment I didn’t think I was other than being loud. But if she felt that way then I had apologized and chalking that up to me being ass. We had continued to fight about it. But something in my gut feels off about it. She said it was a coincidence, but with the stuff of imposing on our time and boom that happening felt odd to me. Add in him waiting at the bar next door for us to leave was weird. She stated he was waiting for us to leave to meet this woman and her friends. To me if that was the case why didn’t he communicate for them to go some place else?

Was I wrong for getting so anger and worked up? Looking for third perspective

No, we haven’t met. He had zero interest in meeting in any capacity as of now.