Hi everyone! I'm new to IDing as solo poly. I've got some questions about the identifier and whether some of my preferences qualify.

Mainly, I've seen some people express that you can't be solo poly if you would be open to living with your partners. My political and economic beliefs make me feel very inclined towards sharing living accommodations with my partners. Ideally, this would be some kind of self-sustainable farm with my polycule. But homestead dreams aside, I'm also open to the idea of sharing a house in the city with couples practicing hierarchy who I really bond with, for instance.

When I've told potential partners about this, I emphasize that I wouldn't expect or necessarily desire a ton of daily contact. I love my alone time. But there's real convenience and practicality to co-housing. And it's ultimately something I think I could see myself actively desiring one day, though I'm happy living alone for now.

What are your thoughts? Can I be solo poly and open to co-housing?

Also, anyone want to help me figure out the difference between "co-living," "co-housing," and "co-habitation" so I can ensure I'm using appropriate terminology?

(Disclaimer: yes, I have posted this in solo poly groups to gain more specificity and insight from that community. But I'm interested in the opinions of those who do not identify as solo poly, too, because many potential partners I am in communication with do not ID as solo poly. I don't want to throw around an identifier that a majority of non-SoPo folks find incompatible with my beliefs about communal living.)