So, I am relatively new to ENM having only started exploring that side of things last summer. I had been essentially practicing relationship anarchy as I have no primary partner and was seeing a couple of different guys at any one time, not quite on a completely casual basis but definitely not anything too serious either. Most of them also had other partners of one kind or another, everything has been very open and honest and easy, on the whole, which I loved.

Just by coincidence, when I went for a first date with someone at the start of November, the relationships I had with the 2 other guys I was seeing at the time already felt like they were winding down. I did continue to see one of them for a few more weeks, but the other wound up just a week or so after the date - nothing to do with said date at all, in either case, just things naturally seemed to come to an end and we parted ways amicably.

I have been on another date since, and actually one of the original guys has been back in touch recently asking if I might be interested in just having some fun.... And I find I'm just not that interested! I'm just having some trouble figuring out why, exactly.

I don't want to go back to being monogamous, for a variety of reasons the freedom of ENM is something I want for my future, and this guy I've been seeing (the one I met in November) has another partner and we have talked a lot, as have they, about having polyamorous relationships moving forward - we haven't even got close to putting any labels on anything yet, but as an example, perhaps we would look at me and him being primary partners (his other partner has a primary partner already) and then each of us having other relationships around that.... But there are lots of other dynamics that I think could work for us in the future, just need to go with the flow on that one. Not least as I've now met the other partner, and we get on really well too, so yeah.... Not sure what might happen there 🤣

But for the meantime, whilst I know I want to be ENM/poly, I also can't seem to stop thinking about this one guy & just wanting to be with him..... Is this just new relationship energy? Or am I maybe kidding myself that I want to be poly, now that I've found someone I have a real connection with?

TLDR - was doing relationship anarchy but since meeting a guy I have a really strong connection with, I've not been feeling like I want to date or even look at anyone else.... Is this just NRE or am I kidding myself & I'm actually not poly/ENM deep down??