I (26M) had the "it’s not you it’s me" so many times now in a row that I start to lose my mind and become negative .

In april, I was dating this 35F women who was supposedly polyamorlus even though she never had a second love partner and who just got out of a relationship with a sex partners. At like date 3, she said she was not ready to date people romantically, blablabla, I’m a great guys and that I had nothing to change blablabla, it’s not you, it’s me. That she was too fucked up.

In may, I was dating this polyamorlus 24F who matched my sense of humour and all. Problems, one of her ex secondary partners, who was a cops, traumatized her sexually her multiple times whitch traumatized her (told me it at the end of the date while I was driving her back home). I must have gained her trust, because she told me that stuff after we hooked up on the first date and told me that the first to had sex with her since than. She than told me a week later that she was not ready to date, it’s was her not me, blablabla.

Than I had with a 27F and got ghosted.

Than in june I had a date with a 34F in an open relationship who wanted to explore polyamory, but we became fwb because the connection wasn’t there and we see ourselves like every month and a half maybe. So nothing wrong here.

Than in august, I had a date with a polyamorpus 32F and she basically told me after the fist date that she didn’t think she have the time to date somebody else than her husband, that her children (5of them) were taking a lot of time on her, that I was fine and it was not me, but her.

Than at the end of November after a break pf dating, I click super well with this 19F and plan to see eachother the week after, but than sent me a message like she is too anxious to date because she just broke up with her ex and that she just learned that a member of her family was heavily sick. That it was not me, that I diserved to be known and loved and that it was all her.

Than this monday I had sex with this 22F who is in an open relationship and we were planning to have sex again but today she texted me that her husband made a new rules todays that they can’t sleep multiple times with the same people because two of her ex fwb got feeling for her. That it was not me, but her.

That’s 5 times in less than a fucking year. I’m becoming crazy seriously. Apparently, I am the perfect guys but no one want to have a casual or serious relationship outside of my fwb that I saw like 4 times in 7 months. I’m becoming crazy. Am I that unlucky seriously? If I’m never the problem, why I never been in a relationship? If I’m not perfect, where my problems and why nobody wants to tell me. I’m losing my mind over it right now.