I’m just looking for some advice on what to do. I’m a third to a married couple and had individual intimacy with my boyfriend (the husband) and my girlfriend (the wife) had a panic attack. We discussed individual intimacy before and said it was okay and then prior to the intimacy got the okay again twice but my girlfriend still had a panic attack and could barely stand to look at me after. She asked if I could I go home almost immediately after I put my clothes back on. When she did look at me it was an expression that chilled me to my core and made me feel like a dirty home wrecker. I always feel very shaky and low after intimacy so they usually do more aftercare but they couldn’t get rid of me fast enough this time. They took me home and barely another word was spoken and they only texted me once the next day. I was basically kicked out for the night and I felt bad and wanted to help but he said there was nothing I could do so I stayed as quiet as I could. She has since apologized and I’m understanding but now I’m questioning if she can even handle polyamory. Plus I don’t like the way I was cast aside and ignored after the fact; I know panic attacks are hard but no one even really told me what was going on or why the panic attack was happening.