Please be gentle , I'm feeling really raw, really guilty, and really shitty and critical of myself already so I don't need that from others at this time.

I came out to my parents as newly polyamorous pretty impulsively and not thought out well at all... and long story short, it did not go well at all. Coming out as queer was hard enough and it's taken my mom along time to get comfortable with that and she just really began developing a good relationship with my primary partner of 5 years. My mom said now she has developed this relationship with my primary partner but she's like "well I don't even know what she is to you anymore, like what's even the point" and I feel so devastated. I feel absolutely devastated because I know my primary partner was feeling good about the relationship she was finally developing with them and I feel like I ruined it. As soon as my mom said that my heart sank and I just felt so unbelievably sad. I knew she wouldn't accept or recognize another person as an equal partnership but I didn't expect she would now see my primary partner as like a fluke practically.

I feel absolutely awful, crushed, disappointed in myself, just all the feelings. I don't really have a question, I think I'm just feeling really really sad.