My husband and I are going through the process of opening up our marriage. It was me who brought it up and he has decided to come along with me. He is making his own choices all along the way and is finding his way into it that he enjoys and is ok with and I am doing the same. But god, the guilt I feel when he is dealing with hard emotions about it is brutal!! I can’t help but feel like I did this to him, it’s all my fault, and if I could just be a different person he would be so much happier. I trust him when he tells me that is not the case, that he loves me, and that he is choosing all of this. But still, it is so painful to watch the person you love hurting or grieving over what they thought their life would look like. (I have not had the best of luck getting helpful responses, I’m really hesitant to even post this, but I really need some guidance.I haven’t been perfect in this process, but I am trying so hard to let him take his time, feel how he feels, and choose it for himself.)