so my partner and i have been having a little roughpatch recently because our attachment styles are vastly different; i am anxiously attached, while he is avoidantly attached. this has caused a rift between us, where i felt unwanted and he felt pressured no matter how much space I tried to give him.

we have both been interested in polyamory in the past, but because our previous relationships were spent with us being compared to others, we were staunchly aversed to it. with each other, we did not compare each other, we just… made the other feel special, and something was different enough for us to be able to comfortably try it.

long story short, we opened the relationship on monday, i can feel a genuine difference in how we act with each other. i went on a date on tuesday, and it felt like i could stop worrying about my primary relationship and was just enjoying my time cultivating a relationship with someone. I felt like my needs that my partner couldnt meet were met, and I also caught myself missing the little things that my partner does. when i got home, my partner gave me a massive, tight hug and i felt so loved and connected with him.

i also dont feel guilty anymore about my attraction to other people outside of the relationship! i feel genuinely relieved and i am so upset this wonderful experience has been barred from me for so long