Hello, So wife and I are new tonthe poly scene. She has had 2 different boyfriends in the last year. I recently found the time to join the life. However, as a married male also one who isn't fit but a chubby guy I am finding the life almost impossible to get any attention. Recently it really hit me hard when the bf and her had a chance for a 4some and she declined because she wants the first to be with me. Which I appreciate but now I feel like I am holding her back from experiencing new things. The same couple show initial interest in me but then met her bf first by chance and now I am just extra baggage. I have since disconnected myself from it since I am not wanted. Any advice on what to do and find a healthy way to support her and not get depressed about my own situation?