Hello all,

Me (28 he/him) and my partner (28 she/they NB) just moved to a new area, as did their other partner (34 they/them NB) nearby to a different apartment. We've been together nearly 5 years, other partner about 6 months.

Me and my partners relationship is wonderful in most all ways except for our differing sex drives, mine high and theirs quite low. Historically been an issue in other relationships for them.

We used to have frequent and adventurous sex and I'm told it was very healing for them as it was for me ✨️ Nowadays it's pretty infrequent despite me trying.

With their newer partner, whoo they've got a thriving sexual connection going! And I'm genuinely glad that they are happy. I just can't help feeling jealousy when I have communicated very clearly how I'm feeling, and My partner has now twice said, "relationships just change over time, go through phases" And yeah I hear that, but also im ultimately feeling very unwanted and undesired...

They told me 6 months ago, "I'll say to you what I have said to other partners: I can always love you with everything I have to give, but if you are not feeling sexually fulfilled, you need to find it elsewhere."

Also I was raised very evangelical goody-two-shoes chastity loving church boy (so harmful and poisonous) and never really had the chance to go out and explore sexually, my relationship to sex in general is complex and needs more healing and fulfillment. It's a big need at this point for my well-being.

How does one go about finding new partners in a new town, while poly and in a relationship? I have no practice with it and could use some advice...

Sorry for the novel, I'm waiting on health insurance with my new job to find a therapist.