So, I am a M(22) and I'm a part of a polyamory/open relationship of a F(21), recently her and his BF broke up after 9 months, and now she's making plans for an official boyfriend to one of the males of her polyamory (because she tells me thsse things) and they're been dating for 4 to 5 months, while, I'm basically dating her online for 8 months now, as I'm not in her country.

Now, the girl is saying to me that she wil not be an official boyfriend of mine as she doesn't want to hurt both of our feelings, but it hurts me even more that she either deny, approve, or say things that "we're not dating", "we're basically dating", or "we're not going to label ourselves as that?"

What should I do? As I do not know what to do now, I'm heartbroken, even though I know she loves me, but I don't know if she really meant it or just to keep me as one of her partners...can someone help me?