Shit hit the fan. With my partner we have been in an open relationship for about 1,5year. In this time we went through lot of challenges but also amazing times, that made me feel this is the compatible partner i want to built my life with.

We used to have unprotected sex, but now we get intimate very occassionally because half a year ago i contracted HSV2 from him, and since then I am having 6months long outbreak. Genital herpes cost me a lot of psychological hardships and ruined my libido.

Only recently i learnt that when we started seeing each other, he was having an unprotected sex with a lover soon after her HSV2 outbreak. He did not informed me about this, nor mentioned hsv2 when we had talk about safer sex, and therefore i did not have chance to make well-informed decision. He was ignorant about the fact that he contracted HSV2 up until his first big outbreak that happened 6mo ago, at the time when i contracted it from him as well.

He crossed my boundry and breach my trust. We have been having long conversations about this. He understands how much he fucked up and that with his egoistic and ignorant behavior put into risk not only me but also all my other lovers.

We both came to the conclusion that we want to find a way to repair this.

However, i am feeling ambiguous about this whole situation- i am feeling hurt and disrespected. On top of this, i have a lot of sexual frustration and need to find a way back to my sexuality. My feelings come in waves of withdrawal, love, anger, hope, and we try to be supportive to each other. I am trying to keep the attitude that people make mistakes but what matters is whether they learn from them and correct them.

Breaking up this relationship is an option, but i would really appreciate suggestions on how to repair situation that was unethical and move on to healthy functioning? Have you been through a difficult repair or trust issues? Help me to see your persepctive on these challenges, thanks!