For a little bit of context, my wife (33F) and I (33M) live in Southeast Idaho and have been non-monogamous for the last three or four years and we've been polyamorous for only a few months. Poly has been such a better fit for us and we've both been so much happier. My wife has a long-distance boyfriend in Illinois and I'm really happy for her. She has a long history of SA and it takes a lot for her to trust someone. Finding another person that she loves and can trust is such a wonderful thing for her and for me. Jealousy has been a complete non-issue and I look forward to seeing how their relationship evolves, especially now that we're about to move to central Illinois for a lot of really positive reasons that we both agree on. Being close to her boyfriend will likely be a major boon for us.

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Now for the problem: I have a close friend here in Idaho whose been poly for years. Our friendship has been slowly deepening for the last few months and over the last couple of weeks it seems to be moving slowly in a more intimate direction. I feel like in another month or two we could have had a really meaningful romantic relationship. I have really strong romantic feelings for her, and I just know that I'm going to miss her once we move. I know that in today's modern era, there's email, text messages, photo sharing, and even video messaging, but I worry that it just won't be the same for me. I'm very much a physical touch kind of person and I feel like the distance is going to really hurt.

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I wonder how many of you have had to end meaningful relationships before their time due to long moves and how you coped. Or better yet, how many of you managed to make long-distance poly relationships work and any tips you may have for me on that front. I'm open to comments or DM's if you'd rather not share details with all of Reddit.