I have been in a monogamous relationship with my wife for over 10 years but in the past few years we’ve been getting into swinging and made a lot of new friends. As we grew more comfortable we both decided that we needed more than just physical contact and so have been exploring polyamory.

I recently began dating a new woman and I am really excited and happy about her. She and my wife are friendly and we’ve seen each other naked several times at parties, etc, but never been intimate. I asked her out and we went out for dinner and we’ve hung out a few more times. She communicates that she’s having fun and is interested in continuing a relationship, but here is my dilemma.

When we are not together she seems not very excited. I text her and get no response, or very short messages. She doesn’t initiate messages, and so far has not suggested date times or anything. I have been the one to ask if she want to hang out or do something. When we do get together we have fun and like I said, she says she is having fun. Admittedly I feel like I’m crushing a bit on her. Am I just overthinking it? Is she not into me? It hasn’t been that long yet so do I just give it a bit more time to develop naturally? How can I stop dwelling on her every day?

I haven’t felt this anxious in a while so I’m not sure if I’m reading the situation correctly.