Not new to poly but can count on 1 hand since 2010 the number of poly relationships.

I’m facing a bit of a mindset & compartmentalization issue.

Tonight I’m going to a sex positive party, and problematically I feel incredibly sexually frustrated (I really want to selflessly please others), so I’m trying to compartmentalize that and just go with 0 expectations. This is a challenge since 2 recent play partners are going, but pressuring them is the last thing I would ever want to do. One friend is new to poly but incredibly unavailable, despite her wanting us to be Long-term play partners. The other is more of a friend with benefits, and being poly I feel would hold her back.

I feel stuck in wanting more, and not obtaining, but enjoying experiences. How do I protect my mind and compartmentalize this?

If we did play tonight, 1 or both together, which occurred recently and was incredibly hot leading to wanting absolute repeats, I’m worried that while initially an amazing uplift, in the coming week its going to worsen my mindset due to it being a bit ripped away in the just feeling back at square one. Ugh 😑, feel wedged between a rock and concrete lol.

Do I try and step back more, supplement with other poly partners (hard to find!), or work on shifting my brain and just enjoying the rollercoaster ride but knowing it’s going to be a blue moon sort of thing?