So my wife and I have recently opened and we’d talked about it at length but I’m finding things difficult but not for the reason I thought!

My wife and I are on the same sites and while she never thought she’d get much interest, she has had a lot of interest very quickly and she’s met some guys and is finding them interesting and I feel will soon be getting to meeting them! I had no doubts she would because while she is fixated on her weight she is a beautiful woman with a beautify personality and I knew she’d quickly generate interest.

Meanwhile, I have had pretty much zip! Again, logically I know that the dating scene is somewhat stacked against guys! Especially guys looking for meaningful connections and being disabled adds another barrier! As a result I kind of knew that it was going to take me a while to find anyone and what might take her a few months might take me 10x as long especially for any relationship starting over the internet!

So why is it that while I’m genuinely fine about my wife talking and getting flirty and talking sexual preferences etc with other guys I find that I’m jealous not of that but of the fact that she’s getting interest and I’m getting none!

I want her to carry on as it’s been great for her self esteem! And I’d love to see her find someone else to help her understand that what I’ve been telling her for nearly 20 years is actually true! But though logically part of me was prepared for the lack of response, the insecure part of me tells me it’s just an excuse and it’s just cause I’m ugly and not interesting or funny to anyone other than my wife!

Why am I not finding myself jealous about the idea of her fucking another guy and yet feeling jealous that she’s getting interest when I’m not? Makes no sense to me!

Anyone else felt like this?