My boyfriend has been poly way longer than I have. I entered the relationship fully knowing he has a wife and other LD partners. We briefly discussed our relationship and he said I can date. Our relationship has gone very well. With the exception of a lot of inner work. But my partner has been amazing at reassuring me.

Last night happens, my boyfriend, his wife, and a bunch of other people were there as a party. I ended up staying behind with the host. Some back story on him is that we have some sexual history together a long time ago. There was some heat between us last night. So it went from cuddling to kissing. But I could not go for more than that. I felt kissing was already too far.

I wanted to. Even after stopping, I still feel some guilt because I am not sure if I was out of line.

My first question is is it ok to wait to tell him in person? I don't think I can take the anticipation of a response by text.

My second question is, is they way it happened normal? Or did I go out of line? I understand I can date other people. I just don't understand what needs to be communicated. I felt the way me and him started was so random. A lot like how it was with this guy. I was never sure if his wife had to give him the ok or if it's just acceptable behavior for him to randomly start making out with people.

Your thoughts are appreciated.