My last post was the my (34f) boyfriend (40M) went on a trip about a week ago. When he got back, he wasn't really texting. And I chalked that up to he was tired from his trip. When he wanted me over this past weekend, I was beyond psyched and got to his place as fast as I could.

When I got there, his wife and her other husband were there, which is fine. But I was sort of hoping we would have been alone. But them being in the house never stopped anything before.

The night was a lot of kissing and cuddling. There wasn't any sex, except me giving on my part. He told me he was tired, so I let it go.

The next day, we cuddled, all morning again. I felt he was aroused, but he was still not seeming to want to do anything. By the time we woke up from a random morning nap, it was noon. We did watch a TV show together, but by the time we finished one episode, he told me he had a lot to do. It was a thing for his wife and a trip to the store (which he is not far from). I sort of felt rushed out.

So since then, I have been really confused. On one hand, we are supposed to see each other this week. On the other, his texting is still insanely sparse. Good mornings and good nights. And I just can't get the feeling that he seemed really off. I don't know if this is how it always is after he comes from a trip.

Also, I do wish we saw each other at my place. I didn't push it though because I knew he probably wanted a break from spending more gas money. I guess in my head I was hoping for this passionate reunion, and instead it was lackluster.

I am planning on talking to him about this when I see him. I don't believe in having these discussions over text. But I don't know how to say anything without sounding needy. Or maybe I am being needy? I guess the reason for my post is to see if this is normal in some poly relationships. I just feel like I am getting more cold signals and lukewarm signals from him than hot signals.