Background: I'm in an ENM intercontinental long distance relationship and we identify as each other's primaries but we do both seek casual dates outside of our relationship.

So far, I've done all my dating through dating apps where my profile directly communicates my relationship status. However, recently, I asked a woman for her number "in real life" and we're going on a first date soon. So far, it's unclear whether it's just gonna be friendly or more, i.e. we have not exchanged intimacies or done any heavy flirting.

I'm unsure as to when I should disclose my relationship status. I've heard from acquaintances who do so after first dates, even if things have gotten physical. That kind of seems unfair to me. On the other hand, disclosing that information during a first date before things get physical kind of seems weird, as does texting about it beforehand, mainly because there's no evidence yet that things will go in that direction at all.

What do you guys think? I'm creating a poll but also, I'm really interested in your guys' reasoning, so please feel free to reply!

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