So, I've been in a wonderful relationship with my partner for 10 years almost. We always desired each other, but last year I started working almost 14hs a day and I've been tired, wich has made me not interested in having sex. Unfortunately my partner is demisexual so they want sex once in a while (that's how it works for them) but can't get that from anyone else.

We both are fatter than when we were younger and that affects my desire, but also I feel unconfortable when our bellys are smashed together because it phisicly separates us, it doesn't allow me to breathe, and penetration is hard to achieve.

Because of the familly we basicly don't have much time alone at home, and we don't earn enough to go to a motel anythmime we want. As my partner is super self conscious with sex (sex assault survivor, all sexual activity makes them hyperaware of everything around them and they can't focus) nothing we do in our houses works.

Their father died last year and I've been there for them for the last year, but they have been super depressed and I've had to take a step back in the last few months and ask for a little me time to don't get dragged into a depression too. My partner took that as if I don't love them and now they are looking for extra affection and asking me daily to fuck them, even when We can't because of the space/house, because I have no energy.

I'm feeling pressured and I don't want to learn to fuck when I don't want to just to please them but it's getting serious and I know it's deoressing them because they tell me things like "I cannot even make my husband horny" and things of that nature. But that only feels like more pressure. With the pressure and the tiredness it's harder for me to think of performing and that's not even the only problem.

I'm desperate and I don't want to have to end a long relationship just because I'm tired and can't fuck, you know? I'm willing to try anything.