My wife and I have been together for 6 years and married for just over five years. About 6 months into our relationship she brought up the desire to have/find a girlfriend. I wasn't against the idea at all of course, think to myself how much fun that would be. We never really followed through because our relationship was so new and we were both concerned with possible jealousy issues.

Now some years down the road it came up again, simply by accident. She has a friend that she was really interested in and quite honestly I encouraged her to follow through, but this time, not for myself as well. I wanted this solely for her. I really had no interest at the time to be involved in another woman, but I could see the benefits for her. I can see how her having not only a close friend to share common interests with that I don't necessarily share. On top of that, the sexual side of that could satisfy other needs that she has. It also helped that I knew this woman as well and felt like trust was already established. We made it clear that at that moment my wife would come first for me, not only to make sure that my wife was completely comfortable, but to also set boundaries. We had what my wife and I thought was a great evening and we both thought that we had the beginnings of a new relationship.

This really changed the dynamic between my wife and I. We immediately seemed to have more fun together and it really lit a fire between us. Then disaster struck. My wife and I got into an argument, not related to the other woman and it caused her friend to pull away. We tried to setup movie dates or just simple get together and she was just not receptive at all. I'm fine with this because, for me, she was kind of a drag. I refer to her as Eore if that says anything.

We are still very interested in building this type of relationship, but we are lost on how to pursue it. I see posts about couples going on individual dates to get to know new people. I can say for myself that I have zero interest in going on a one on one date with another woman, but would be open for my wife to do so.

With all of that said, so as to give some background and not come off as a unicorn hunter, what is the best way to go about this? Socially my wife and I are very different. I'm happy to chat up the nearest person, where as she is a bit shy. Are there any sites that would be recommended that are not filled with bots, but actual people we could carry a dialog with? Any recommendations would be appreciated as I truly believe that this is the direction our relationship should go to create a balance and ensure the growth and stability of our own relationship. We are looking for a girlfriend and not a sex doll.