I am a fan of therapy. I have poly friendly individual therapy and our couples counselor is poly herself. I have studied CBT and DBT and try to pull those tools out to help with things.

Meta floated the idea of all 3 of us doing an exercise her therapist recommended. Her therapist knows very little about poly. Is this something I should be doing?

The idea is we would all write what our expectations and desires for our relationship are and then share. I’m confused by it being one relationship? We are in a V with a shared hinge. Also I feel like my expectations and desires for my relationship with my partner are personal to us only. I don’t know if I feel comfortable sharing those with meta.

I may not be the most approachable person and I am more guarded than some. It takes me a long time to open up to people and the thought of doing therapy stuff with meta makes me have a lot of anxiety.

Do I need to do this to be a good meta and partner? Does anyone have an idea on what the end goal of this would be? Maybe this is a good idea with questionable implementation?

Thanks for your help! Oh I should mention we are somewhere between KTP and garden party.