Hello everyone! Not sure where else to have asked this question, but essentially my partner ("Helga") and I started dating about a year ago while they were dating their partner ("Jordan") of 4 years. For context, all of us are members of the LGBTQ community, and Helga and Jordan had been living together for a few years.

Helga and I took some time apart in December, during which Jordan broke up with them. Fast-forward to today, Helga and Jordan still live together (super cheap rent) and I've been wrestling with Helga and Jordan remaining close friends.

In principle, I have no issue with a partner remaining friends with their ex, but considering the fact thar they haven't had any real time apart, part of me is abnormally uncomfortable (and a little jealous) that Helga is keen on keeping Jordan in their lives. Helga has brought up Jordan's experience as a trans person and how that would be an important source of support for Helga moving forward, which makes sense to me. I'm also aware of the queer community's normalization of remaining friends with your ex.

Am I overreacting in being kindof upset? I would never propose barring a partner from talking to someone else, but I'm in a tough spot where they still live together and it makes me feel jealous and weird that their friendship is still kindof close.