I’m having a hard time adjusting to a new connection my partner is having. This is the first time I’ve been on the other end of things where my partner is the one who met someone. He’s still just getting to know her but I’m over here with my awful anxiety conjuring up multiple scenarios in my head and thinking 500 steps ahead and it’s affecting me physically. My chest is tight. I was just on the phone with my partner after their time together today and he was telling me things I would find reassuring but my mind is racing and blocking positive thinking.

As for the other feeling, I do feel happiness for my partner. This connection happened so organically and she has experienced the lifestyle before and is very happy with how open my partner and I are with each other. I want to meet her. I know I have to wait a little while for that. My partner seriously considered me when he told her about me and as he is getting to know her plus she and I seem compatible as friends and we’ll see where it takes us.

Is it normal to have two of these complex feelings at the same time?