I got cheated on in my first poly relationship and it’s really taking its toll. I really trusted and loved this person and I feel so traumatized. I feel so afraid of love. I feel afraid of feeling this way again. I’m just devastated. I feel like I’ve been naive about how people that seem like good people can just totally disregard their partners’ feelings and be so selfish and blatantly ignore boundaries both parties agreed upon.

Relationships are hard. Venting about this in other relationship subreddits isn’t helpful bc people don’t get it. Yes we were in an open relationship. Yes they cheated. It’s still a breach of trust and it hurts terribly.