my gf has another gf who she has been with for longer than she’s been w me. she insists there is no hierarchy but i can’t help but feel secondary often. i have been really struggling w my depression for the past two days and she knows this. i finally asked her if she had plans tonight and expressed that if she doesn’t, i would like to see each other / i really miss her / having a hard time/ etc. she declined because she has plans to go bowling with her other gf. normally i wouldn’t really give that anymore thought but she has already hung out w her other gf several times this week and i haven’t seen her since sunday. this along with other things just make me feel like i’m secondary, even though she has told me not to think of myself as that. am i being unreasonable or insecure?

edit: they have been together 2 years on and off, and we’ve been together 7 months. none of us live together

edit #2: i agree that the right thing to do was keep the plans she had already made, i’m really just trying to figure out if i’m being insecure or if i need to communicate with her more effectively so i feel better in our relationship i guess. i don’t know if i’m making any sense at all lol.