So I knew this day would come between my husband and his long term girlfriend. They are planning a vacation. They asked me if I wanted to come but I think no, that might make things weird and they should get to have fun with each other. Earlier this year I took a family vacation with hubs and since he isn’t out to his parents he couldn’t talk to her so much.

I know there are mixed opinions about coming out to parents but it just cannot happen for my husband and meta respects this. He is out to others but his relationship with his parents would be shattered if they knew. I love them but they are very old fashioned and I think his mom is frail enough that it might even put her into the hospital.

I had even suggested they get an Airbnb sometime for an overnight. I have a boundary about no one else in our bed and we have a small house. Similarly, meta’s husband doesn’t want overnights when he is at home. So they don’t get them often.

This is more than just one overnight though! They are going to a very touristy place with a ton of fun stuff. I’m excited for them, especially since this is being paid for partially by her work so they will have more money to do fun things.

I am also nervous a bit. I’m not jealous or envious. I’m more nervous that they will be so far away and for so long I think. I know I can hold down the house. I do think I will be a bit lonely. I will be working so I can’t really do anything fun myself. I do love my job and I love hanging out with my child so it should be fun.

Any advice or words of support?