Gonna start this off by saying I do know what I need to do probably...it's just bringing myself to do it and figuring out how.

So, I have three partners. One is my long term nesting partner of 8 years. A second is a long distance relationship I've only been with for 5 months now, but they are a lot of fun to be with and a fount of unconditional support. The third was a childhood friend who always had a thing for me, and who I have...kinda been with for two years. I say kinda because she moved away for work for about a year in the middle, though she is staying with me and my nesting partner right now.

And there is part of the problem. Since moving in, she never listens to what I have to say. Never respects my opinion, because 'she knows me better than that'. She gets jealous of my long distance relationship because my long distance partner puts in a lot more effort than she did while she was away. She's trying to 'fight' for a position in a hierarchy that doesn't exist, ignores me telling her such, and has done things like tear the headphones from my head to yell at people I was talking to. That right there is pretty damning to me, as I can handle people acting bad towards me, but hurting others I care about...that's a no.

Perhaps most damning of all is that she's started trying to make rules on how I handle my other relationships, to make her more comfortable with them. Ignoring established dynamics and agreements.

There is already a talk...scheduled for tomorrow. She's always saved starting fights for when my nesting partner was asleep or out, but I've made sure they know what's going on and they'll be avaliable. I was given an ultimatum on something I have no intentions of backing down on, because giving in would hurt people.

A large part of me hopes she'll calm down. I do love her. Even excluding how helpful it has been to have her around, I enjoy her company when fights aren't happening. But...if it comes to it I'm not going to make other people hurt just to satisfy her. I just hope I can handle this as gently as possible.