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My friend thinks she disappointed me because she tried polyamory and "failed" at it
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This isn't anything dramatic. Just a sort of sweet story I'd like to share.

To begin with, while I'm not sure I'm polyamorous, I know for sure that I'm not monogamous. So I have this friend (20F) who's six years younger than me. Very timid and reserve and just a sweetheart overall. She was hesitant to be my friend at first cause she thought she was annoying me since I'm older. But when I made no complaints, we started getting closer and she looks up to me like a big sister. And it's kinda sweet to have a little sister who doesn't think I'm so uncool (my real little sister thinks I'm so lame.)

One day my friend, let's call them Max, came up to me and excitedly told me they were dating 2 people. One boy and one girl I think. See Max ask me a lot about sex and dating since I get around a lot. And while my promiscuity scandalizes her sometimes, she's general grateful for the stories and advice. Although a lot about my situation doesn't really apply to her because I'm more focus on sex than romance.

Still I think Max wanted to be a bit like me so they tried out polyamory. And it was great at first a lot of fun dates. But after a few months, the guys started to become somewhat of a jerk. Nothing abusive, just mean and unpleasant from what I've gathered. The girl was also kinda absent in this drama. Not supportive I think.

So they all broke up.

And for a week Max didn't tell me because she thought I would be disappointed with her.

And I just thought that was so cute that she's more heartbroken about what I think than the relationship with the two instead.

I told her to relax. I don't think any less of her. And that polyamory isn't for everyone. But in the end I think she'd be grateful for the experience. I said I wish more people were like her. Trying things to be sure of what they want.

While they're not actively seeking a polyamorous relationship, Max says she'll keep an open mind.

She is now currently dating a girl from Russia (long distant style) and is happier than ever.

And truly I wouldn't change a thing about Max... except maybe change the fact that she keeps trying to get me to play this ghost hunting game with her and her girlfriend. I like it freaky in the bed, but not that kind of freaky! I hate horror.

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