I finally told my wife I was unhappy in my relationship with her. I have a secondary partner.its been nearly two years exactly. I truly didn't ever know I could or would experience this kind of love. Anyway. My second partner had Made a promise to my wife that if things got rocky she would bow out. I told my wife that I would not sacrifice my relationship with my second partner to save our marriage.

My second partner and I haven't seen each other for two weeks. I am overseas. The last night before I went away my wife had an unplanned threesome with another couple. I didn't stay with my other partner because I didn't think she wanted me to stay. She did. But didn't say. My wife asked me not to tell my other partner. I had to in the context of knowing your std risk. I don't even know if I'm actually polyam. I was in a relationship. We opened it. I fell in love. And what I found eclipsed my pre existing relationship.

My second partner is off to visit another person today with the intention of breaking how she feels about me by being with someone else.. And on the same day is I think actually breaking up with me. I'm traveling with my family. I am utterly overwhelmed. Trying to put on a brave face here for my kids I will see her at the airport the day after tomorrow. Apologies if this is a bit nonsensical. I'm pretty upset