My partner and I just had a disagreement. We are long distance and they've recently moved and had a lot of stress on them. Our communication has suffered and I've been feeling lonely and disconnected. They are also feeling lonely on top of a host of other emotions having moved from a place they loved and the people they care about to live in a large home with their family. Its a dream of theirs. We have a weekly date night to stay connected and talk and it's a really important time for me. They said they wanted to call their friend but it would cut into our scheduled time. Originally I said ok but we are in different time zones so I put forward a compromise of having their talk after our date since it would be about 9pm their time when our date was over roughly. They said they would compromise with me and have their call at 7pm their time which gave us roughly 2 hours. It's reasonable but feeling disconnected I felt slighted that what time we had was being shortened and we have not had great communication outside of these dates for almost 3 months. My emotions started to rise and they told me that bringing this up to them was attempting to guilt them into not doing something that would make them happy. I had no intention of doing that but are they right? I'm willing to admit I'm wrong. But it hurt to hear them say that. What proceeded next I'm struggling with and I need someone outside my head for guidance. When she explained that they hadn't really spoken in weeks and their schedules hadn't synced up to talk this was new information to me. I said why didn't you just tell me that. We've never even discussed this was going on. To which she said she didn't owe me an explanation and the fact that she said she needed this should have been enough for me. She also said that her needing to choose herself first was a part of our agreed upon relationship boundaries. All of that being said I felt really hurt at the end. I felt really small. And all of those emotions are internal. Outside of this discussion she does not actively do anything to make me feel that way. I wish we had more chances to connect but I can't blame her for that. Am I completely wrong for feeling this way? And if I am where do I go from here? How do I separate this feeling of being unimportant from her clear needs. And how do I ask for what I need without encroaching on her boundaries.