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TL;DR My Meta is moving in with us until her apartment is finished in 2-3 months

Update

Today I arrived home from work to find my Meta (Julie) sitting in my driveway. We went inside and I made a big pot of tea, I have made a loose-leaf tea snob out of her. We sat down at the kitchen table and started talking about her moving in. We talked for almost two hours and two large pots of tea about everything. By the time Chris (my husband) got home we were back in the guest room deciding what to move and what she wanted to bring from her apartment.

We brought Chris up to speed on what we had talked about and he brought up issues of his own and we walked through them. Chris brought up that if Julie met someone and wanted to entertain him in our house that was fine but before he slept over we would need to feel comfortable with him. Julie asked if Chris and her could have private time i.e. me being out of the house for an evening or two a week and by mid-May my partner will be back and that won’t be a problem. Group cuddles are allowed, especially on TV nights. Schedules for everything, I really think we overdid some things but we can work that out later. We wrote a page full of expectations, rules, and boundaries and we all signed it. I brought up a sub-lease agreement but got voted down. Six hours later Julie left after giving me a big hug and asking for the umpteenth time if I was still alright with this.

Chris will be spending Wednesday and Thursday nights with Julie at her apartment getting things packed and ready. Saturday he is moving a couple of dressers and her mattress to her new room and she will spend her first night with us. She is getting a storage unit to hold all her stuff before she moves to her new apartment, and she can take her time packing and moving over the next couple of weeks.

Julie and I are both in a good place with this, we each have a few worries. Chris on the other hand is a little stressed about everything, he worries the Hinge role for him will be difficult. It may take a week for things to settle down and a rhythm to develop but we will get him through it.

Add On: One thing that my girlfriend brought up that I should add, is while Chris and I are concentrated on our partners and not seeing anyone else right now, and Julie and my girlfriend are currently only seeing Chris and me, the four of us are still open and able to date other people if we wish.