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TL;DR Thinking of letting my Meta move in with us.
A little background, I have been married and open since the start of our relationship for 7 years. Chris (NP & Husband) and I recently had a major falling out over something I did, another long story. Suffice it to say, if the tables had been turned I would have walked away. I panicked and wanted to close our relationship, at least my half, to try and save our marriage. We ended up pulling back and only having one other partner apiece and were able to work things out.
My Meta(Julie) broke up with her nesting partner of 3 years a couple of months ago. Julie and Chris have been spending more time together since our pullback and she stopped seeing her FWB, so I approached Chris saying I was okay if he wanted to go barrierless with Julie. We had always had a mandatory condom rule with others before and we all get tested quarterly, plus my other partner is female. Chris said he would have that conversation with Julie and would let me know before anything changed. We had a long talk about us and our partners and all good. He mentioned Julie’s lease was up and she was looking for a cheaper apartment closer to where we live, she is a 40-minute drive right now. Julie has dated Chris for almost 3 years and I have formed a friendship with her over time, we both share a deep love for the same person. Actually, we’ve moved to a KTP vibe over the last year and the four of us socialize together.
Julie has found an apartment a few minutes from our house, but it is still under construction. She put a deposit down and it will be ready in a couple of months. Her old apartment won’t let her go month to month and is pressuring her to sign a new lease or move by May 1st. Chris and I have a large four-bedroom house. One bedroom is our “playroom” we use when our partners stay over, a guest bedroom, and the third bedroom has been converted to an office/gym.
I’m thinking about the possibility of offering a chance for Julie to stay with us for a couple of months until her new apartment is ready. I’m just not sure how that will work between splitting time with Chris. I think I could handle it but I wonder if Julie could. When she was still with her NP, she would sometimes do an overnight here and it never got weird. I have never tried this before and would love some feedback before I bring the subject up with Chris. Obviously, this would require a sit down with all three of us and some major discussion of boundaries and scheduling. I am nervously excited about it, like opening for the first time feeling.
Note: This is my idea alone and my husband has never mentioned this possibility.
While I am bi, Julie is hardcore straight. The idea of a 3 or 4 some came up in an adult drinking game one night and Julie shot it down straight away.
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