My husband and I have been poly for quite some time now but.. lately someig emotions have come up for me now that they have a partner. There are multiple big things that have come up now that have Mr struggling that ultimately leave me asking myself: How do i process/proceed? How do I talk and express myself without trying to seem like I'm trying to control everything?

1. We are parallel poly. I am pretty sure my husband and his partner want ktp. I just don't see that as an option after things he has said about her that make me uncomfortable. That is why I went and made a new list of boundaries for us on what is discussed even because it makes me so uncomfortable at times. I don't want to ruin what he has just because I am uncomfortable with someone.

2. I have been made aware recently they may have a weekend away together and it has me panicking for some reason.. i came to a realization that what I need to do during their time is do something for myself that i wouldn't normally do.. which did help a little..but does this ever get easier?

3. How does everyone continue to make sure their spouse still spends time with them or express that they need more time?

I don't currently have a partner per se. I am talking to someone but nothing super serious yet. I am super guarded and busy so that's ok with me..