So…my wife/NP/only partner at this time told me today that during a recent trip with her boyfriend of about 10 months told her he loved her and that she also loved him. She was immediately checking in to make sure I was okay. My genuine reaction at the time was a.) kind of a confirmation, because I’ve known for some time that her feelings had evolved for him but more importantly, b.) I was very happy for her and for him.

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10 hours later when I’ve had time to unwind from my day, I got hit with some BIG feelings beyond happiness. Fear, insecurity, jealousy for what she has with him, even though my relationship with her is better than ever, sadness for what once was, and more. Her and I discussed some of this, but I know I need to process these feelings on my own.

I guess why I’m posting is just looking for some support, stories, advice, friendly conversation, something. How did you take care of yourself the first time your partner fell in love with their partner?